There's a few reasons I wanted to write this post. I was listening to a recent study about people who tend to complain a lot. That there are actual proven scientific facts that people that complain, their brain gets stuck in a pattern of complaining and they never get out of that. Instead, focus on changing what your complaining about, and try to give it any more attention that just that.
Change what you can, and don't complain about what's wrong. What's the old saying? God grant me the serenity to change the things I can, accept the things I cannot, and the wisdom to know the difference.
1. Something that you may have done, or not have done for that matter (supposed missed opportunity or choice) and can't stop thinking about it to this day - how it would have been if you did that certain thing? made that choice? took that job? did not miss that opportunity? Well first of all, you never really know. Thinking that way - I'm guilty of having done this as well- will prevent you from moving forward. So instead, go forward, and make decisions and work toward what you want. You'll know it when it comes and the decision will be easy. A good thing my dad used to tell me growing up, when I had a decision to make was that "There was no wrong decision. If it's not an obvious choice, then pick something and follow through with it fully." You can't be wrong that way.
2. Don't focus on what's wrong, that gives that more power, and ultimately makes reality of it. Instead, don't even have a feeling toward it, don't complain about it, drop it like it never entered your brain in the first place and work toward what makes you feel good, focusing on that and keeping that in your mind. I've adopted this mentality throughout the years and I will tell you - not only does it make you feel much better throughout your life, you'd be surprised at how much seems to go your way because you are not giving attention at all to what is not going your way. I think I may have gotten some of this way of thinking from the video "The Secret" which whether you believe in it or not, there are definitely some good things to take away from the overall gist of it: http://thesecret.tv/
3. Action breeds action. Moving forward, not thinking of what could have been, creates more of what you want. Do it in a positive manner and you will surprise yourself how much goes your way.
You can't just talk about what you want. I don't even respect much talk. I'd rather not talk about anything and just do it. Everyone knows those people that sound like they are going to rule the world with their ideas, but they don't follow through or do anything. How bout not talking and just doing? Own a business, start a business, take up a sport, learn an instrument, make an investment, write a screenplay, whatever it is. I remember starting acting, I was in a small town in PA. No one did that stuff. I never told anyone. They would just ask me where I was going. I hardly told anyone. I'd say I was driving to the city for something -they thought I was selling drugs. I wouldn't be able to drink or party all night with them, because I had to get up early to go to some independent movie set the next day. However, when I invited them all to the opening night of Invincible and we had two rows in the movie theater packed with my friends and they all cheered for the 56 seconds of screen time I had when I was 23 and still in college...it was all worth it. In face here's the scene...line cut, but at least you know I'm there-
Don't talk about it, be about it. When you do it, you'll have a lot to talk about. People will respect you for that.